Emotions
What morning .. Wake up late for work (startled) .. Get up quickly in minutes get ready and go .. The road is crowded (Tttrh) .. The director receives you with a close look (worry) .. Blames you. Upgrade your colleague (Tghar) .. Accumulate the work on your office (Taml) .. Ending the date of work without completion (frustrated) .. Back and your wife does not stop complaining (angry) .. A contact comes to tell you about the death of a relative (sad) .. Enter your room is important (Tkabb) .. Vtstrk ideas of illness and departure (afraid) .. Tkrk your strength .. Break down .. Ojlbk sleep .. And finally sleep .. To wake up the next morning has been delayed again from the work date .. My dear do not be surprised .. It is a spiral Emotions!
People think that the emotions are unbridled horses, not bridle them .. And monsters possessed no authority on them .. And they are prisoners of the stimuli take them whenever and wherever they want .. This fact is the great trick and the big illusion .. The science has proved that the emotions gained .. Show according to programming The presuppositions on which the individual is located, where he stores in his depths a set of ideas and convictions that determine the pattern of his responses to events. These in turn vary from person to person. The evidence for this is very clear. Why do people respond differently to the same conditions? What you make annoying you enjoy others and so on.
The emotion consists of four elements: thoughts, emotions, physical sensations, external behavior, fears, for example, thinking about danger, feeling panic, feeling his heartbeat, escaping and hiding. Perhaps his fear goes even further. Interacting with each other and interacting with each other so that any one of them can indicate others. Changing someone changes others directly. For example, when you change your view in someone, you automatically change your feelings towards him and therefore your behavior towards him. Changing the posture of the body from sitting to stretching also gives you a feeling of relaxation. Standing confidently makes you feel confident .. The smile in front of the mirror for minutes makes you feel happy and so .. But despite all This consistency between the elements of emotion, but we can not sometimes distinguish the emotion of someone from his apparent behavior .. This is due to two reasons: First, that the human usually does not pass one emotion in a purely .. But there are major emotions and other emotions to affect the final image. You can imagine a depressed person who hears a joke .. You will find him merely smiling with reserved or chuckling laughs, which makes it difficult to distinguish his emotion clearly. The other reason is the tendency of people to hide their feelings as they learned from their predecessors.
?How do you control your emotions
I will tell you what NLP offers in controlling emotions.
1. Change beliefs
First, review all the values and beliefs related to the emotion to be disposed of, and then activate the values, beliefs and inner feelings related to the emotion to be acquired and benefit greatly the exercise of burning the beliefs already presented in the article of intention versus desire - see the article.
Body positions
Prepare your body with the condition associated with the desired emotion. If you are looking for confidence, it represents the confident posture, the position of the shoulders, the neck, the head, the jaw, the facial expressions, the eyesight, the tone of the voice, and the language of the trustees. The inner feelings are activated by a regular breathing and a sense of warmth and Muscles .. Repeat it a lot .. Now notice what happens as your body enters this situation in more detail.
Link
It is a concrete sign that evokes a psychological state of mind. Your world is full of links without knowing you. For example, when you hold a stick you feel safe, look up and feel confident. Your head bends back to make you feel relaxed. The lungs fill you with air, and you feel calm. What if you make these links daily rituals .. For example, if you feel that stretching in the morning gives you strength, when not converted to a daily ritual and so on.
Reference experience
Is a specific experience occurred in a specific place and time in your life and restore it when you call a particular emotion .. For example, if you go to work poet relaxed, you can recall in your mind the time of work feel calm .. There is a close relationship between the reference experience and passion associated with it .. Each of us has a total I remember that I had previously moved to live in another city and I was suffering from the feelings of loneliness and alienation of the different character of the new city from what I lived in my mother city. But soon I changed my life and became a happy life. So exhilarating that I considered it a The most beautiful periods of my life .. Therefore I have taken from this period a reference experience to resort to every time I moved to life in a new place .. Only whenever I felt alienation or brutality I sat in a relaxed and recalled in my imagination that beauty I saw in my first Western .. And what is only A few minutes and I feel a delicious refreshment in my soul and a great optimism for a bright future in my new residence. Thank you for my experience
Method of separation and bonding
(Eg, eliminating fear and gaining trust)
Separation: is to look at the situation with the observer eye like you are watching a movie you represent it .. For example, when you are afraid of something is separated from him as if you see yourself in the situation from the distance .. And treated the problem logic .. Know the risks associated with the problem rationally, You can handle it and deal with risk. You do not need to worry anymore. When your thoughts change, your feelings will change. You may feel differently.
You can remember an event in the past when I was brave. I immersed in it so that it merged into all its details, scenes, sounds, smells and body positions. It represented the situation as if I were really in it and derived strength from it. (If you do not find Vstahr in mind a person know the boldness and confidence .. If you did not find Vstahb personal in a novel or television series was lead to confidence and steadfastness .. In any case, try to put yourself in the place of this person and the situation of all the situation
